I told him that I’d forgotten how to be authentic. I said “I’m just too happy, we all know that good art is borne out of pain.” He laughed, and agreed and said “Well write about that. That’s authentic. And hopefully, although that sentiment has been over done, it will take you somewhere…” And then he rambled on about eastern philosophies and creating imbalance and I ummed and aahed at appropriate intervals pretending to follow his thread.
And somehow after all that I’m sure that eventually I’ll write something worth reading.
Recently discovered just how impressed I am by honesty. I’d prefer to live being painfully honest and ready to be cut or bruised or ashamed. I hate having to muddle through what you say to reach what you mean to strive for what you think and eventually find what you feel.
2) If you come from an island in the Caribbean, that’s a mistake. The islands are not a proper place. People from places like the islands can’t write about being alienated, because how can you feel alienated in a place where people like to wear bikinis? Be a writer from England. Do not mention you are black.
3) You mustn’t write long sentences.
4) You mustn’t write about yourself.
5) Do not be abstract.
6) Do not write about race. Everyone will say you only write about race.
7) Write about race. If you don’t, they will point out that you haven’t written about race.
8) Do not be a black woman writer.
9) Do not be a black woman.
10) Do not be black.
”—Jamaica Kincaid, during a lecture given as part of Columbia University’s creative writing lecture series (via ethiopienne)
a gentle bass welcomed me at the door, drew me in to the dark, to the warmth, i felt just like i wanted to feel: alone, whole, Woman. dancing inside, i sit, close my eyes and am filled rhythm heals and restores.
i don’t want this to end.
i hear conversations simmer, laughter glitter and the occational ‘clink’ of glasses a toast to Music! dark bodies hold each other close, eyes shut, they feel and emulate the sounds. in love and swaying.
an awed hush falls a queen, all eyelashes, locks and curves speaks to the room she pours her voice, cool silver-smooth notes her words tell me we are sisters, she slowly falls back into the melodic atmosphere…
i am consumed by a tall dark frame in the shadows a lone lover moving his fingers over the strings of his love head bowed, submissive, he feels so intensely he is moved by the deep meaningful vibrations and likewise a familiar, lulling, beautiful force compels me to stand uninhibited i move, caught up dancing in his music feeling every stroke.
“When men say “most women are crazy, but not you, you’re so cool” the subtext is not, “I love you, be the mother to my children.” The subtext is “do not step out of line, here.” If you get close enough to the men who say things like this, eventually, you will do something that they do not find pleasant. They will decide you are crazy, because this is something they have already decided about women in general.”—Lady, You Really Aren’t “Crazy” (via seebster)
“How much of your Christian life involves you feeling like you’re on the outside, looking in? Jesus said, “I am the vine, you are the branches”. You’re literally connected to God. That place you’re trying to get to… you’re there. Take a moment. Let it sink in. You are His. Now work the connection!”—Unka Glen (unkaglen.tumblr.com)
“I don’t have a word to say. Why don’t I just stay quiet, then? But if I don’t force myself to talk, silence will forever engulf me in waves. Word and form will be the plank on top of which I shall float over billows of silence.”—Clarice Lispector, The Passion According to G.H. (translated by Ronald Sousa)
1. Be honest with yourself and admit that you’re putting off stuff that really needs to be done.
2. Try and figure out why you’re procrastinating. Is it because you don’t like it, it creates anxiety, you don’t understand it, it feels overwhelming, you’re disorganised …?
3. Decide to break the habit of procrastination by deliberately rewarding yourself for doing something you’d rather not do.
4. Make a pact with a friend –where you deliberately and regularly encourage each other, and hold each other accountable.
5. Sit down and think – in detail – about all the likely consequences of not doing what needs to be done. Be brutally honest, and try and picture what you’re life is going to look like 6 months, a year and five years from now ( if you continue to procrastinate).
6. Decide to break large tasks down into smaller, more achievable tasks, and then tackle these smaller tasks one at a time.
7. Recognise your progress, and affirm and praise yourself for making these changes – and doing things differently, even though it’s hard.